As well as taking significant chunks of the day, online dating can be frustrating and tough. Until you meet the person face-to-face, you never really know whether you’re going to get along and, more often than not, there are things we like and things we don’t like about the person after a date. To help guide you through, here are some simple do’s and don’ts to the world of online dating.
DO: Enjoy Life
When you have interesting hobbies and things that fill your time, you’re more likely to gain attention as opposed to sitting online every night with little else to do.
DO: Get Creative
When it comes to your photos, these are pivotal if you’re going to attract people towards your profile. Therefore, make sure they’re unique, they show off your hobbies (and personality!), and all visitors can see you without squinting or giving up completely.
DO: Be Proactive
If you’re going to lurk all day and stalk somebody’s profile, it’s not going to be long until that profile disappears and they get married forcing you to move onto somebody else (perhaps a slight exaggeration of the dating process!). If you want to connect with somebody, just do it; why all the waiting? There’s never going to be a ‘perfect’ moment so just send the message or request to connect.
DO: Add Humor
When communicating online, it’s not hard for the conversation to sound a little robotic. With this in mind, you need to stand out and add humor to your replies. If you can make somebody laugh, this is half the battle won because everybody loves a bit of humor.
DO: Remove All Fears
What’s the worst that can happen? They say ‘no’ and you feel a little embarrassed. If you're going to connect with people, you have to put yourself out there and this is bound to come with some rejections. One day, when all seems lost, you’ll succeed and could just meet the man/woman of your dreams.
DON’T: Duck Lips
Short and sweet, leave the duck lips for…well, just leave them!
DON’T: Incite Certain Behaviors
If you’re going to post pictures of your chest out, you can’t then complain that you receive perverted comments. Of course, perverted comments are never acceptable but you can avoid them with the right photos.
DON’T: Tell Everybody Your Contact Information
Although it might be frustrating communicating on a dating website where the responses can be quite slow, we urge you to be careful with all contact information. If you want to take the conversation to texting or WhatsApp, buy a prepaid phone and one that has no personal information attached. Read more about safety sexting...
DON’T: Post Just Selfies
Nowadays, we’ve reached a point where selfies gain no attention whatsoever; nobody cares more about a selfie than the person in the photo. Instead, be creative and have pictures of you laughing, playing sport, and showing some character. As you might be able to tell, we don’t like duck lips or selfies!
If you’re on a dating site, this is great but it should always be supplementary as opposed to your main focus. While on this note, don’t post excessively on social media because research tells us jealousy can be created by and on Facebook. In addition to this, Facebook users are more likely to get in touch with old flames. If you treat Facebook as it should be treated, a welcome bonus to life, rather than something that needs checking every 30 minutes, you’ll be just fine.
DON’T: Be Too Modest
With online dating, there’s a fine line between modesty and arrogance. If you want to tell the world about your degree, go ahead but be willing to admit a shortcoming with it and the reader will be impressed while also laughing.