These five words are uttered millions of times per year all around the world in dozens of languages; ‘are we more than friends’. Whether it’s to friends, family members, or even asking ourselves looking for the answer, it’s certainly a tricky topic to approach. However, perhaps there is a starting point and this is ‘why?’. If you’re asking this question, surely you’ve made up your mind you want to be something more, right?
As we all know, some of the strongest and greatest relationships start with two friends so interest and availability leads to long-term happiness. However, you can’t just approach the subject without being sure because relationships are a confusing thing. Today, we have some tips for confirming your own feelings and hopefully making progress towards their feelings too.
You Think About Them Away From a Platonic Relationship
If either of you is in a relationship, you should be bringing the relationship back to a platonic state only. If necessary, take some time away from them and consider why you’re thinking this way (even if you’re in a long distance relationship). Typically, those who fight regularly with their partner tend to find solace in this type of friend and, as they say, the grass looks greener on the other side because an instant comparison is made. Perhaps you connect on a more emotional level and you wonder why you and your partner aren’t the same?
Before you do anything, you need to be careful because moving from friends to partners is risky and often damaging. If you’re confident you both feel the same way, make sure nobody will get hurt in the crossfire which means no partners still attached to either of you. If neither of you are single, there should be no ‘testing’; just walk away and don’t ruin what you already have.
You’ve Already Kissed
Occasionally, two friends will kiss regularly (sometimes when drunk because the drink becomes an easy excuse) or even sleep together. If this is you, it’s fair to say your relationship is on the boundary. However, you should never be confused as to what’s going on so you need to decide where the relationship is going. If they aren’t interested in a relationship, you need to feel the same or else walk away. If they aren't committed and you want the relationship more than anything in the world, you will get hurt and the other party can’t even be blamed because you led yourself astray.
You’re Always Flirting
As we all know, flirting is a sign we are attracted to the another person. However, you should be careful if they have a partner because you wouldn’t like it if the roles were reversed. If you both have no ties, this could be the start of something worth smiling about but it will require a move from either side to really make something happen.
Often, self-reflection is the best way to truly assess a situation. If you can be honest with yourself, the blurred boundaries suddenly become clear and you realize what is happening, what you want, and what they want from your company. Sometimes, the other party won’t be interested and sometimes they will. Once you look within yourself to find this information, you can either walk away or take the calculated risk that could change your life for the better!